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Do you feel there is a gender war going on, especially in the black community?
If you’re like me you’ve noticed to plethora of podcasts, experts, social commentors. They’re offering their views and advise on relationships, the opposite sex and the problems with them. I’ll always endorse debate and discussion.
However (and at the risk of only adding to the buzz) I feel that there is a lot of finger pointing. “the problem with women is…” “Men are just…”. My gran once told me when you point at someone be mindful three fingers point back at you. Basically, look at, be accountable for, heal from, explore your rational.
In a time when it’s so blatant that the world doesn’t care for us, a world that continues to demonstrate its injustice towards us, a world were we continue to have to fight to protect ourselves that we ought to be also fighting each other? It’s all well and good pointing fingers but let’s talk about the solution. Not who’s right or wrong. Not turning tables. If we look at a lot for the rhetoric and narrative it would sound like we don’t wish to be with eachother. Yet, most of us will profess to only loving and wanting #blacklove.
There is no one route to creating and connecting as a ppl when it comes to black love but we sure can stop and reflect and work towards solutions cause in this battle of the sexes nobody wins.
Ok. Rant over. 🙏🏾🙌🏾🖤✊🏾
What’s your thoughts?
His dick stroke was God.
When he was on top of me.
His back would recoil. Arch backwards. Then slowly his pelvis would tilt
downwards into me. His abs would flex, offering more leverage to his tilt and his length, his broad girth would part my walls. He would clench his ass as if he was squeezing the last inches of his deep strokes. Then when he reached the root of my yoni he’d push his entire body up the length of mine. Pause. Then slowly recoil backwards. All this in one smooth, unhurried motion. Repeatedly. With intent.
Until I crumbled like Jenga.
You’ve been invited to learn and explore Shibari (erotic rope bondage) on Wednesday 27 April.Your host and tutor for the night will be Mousey is sending you a personal invite so come along.
This is London’s first shibari workshop dedicated for people of African/Caribbean heritage.
This will be a friendly, inclusive session. Suitable for singles, couples and groups. It’s the ideal place to learn, explore, meet likeminded people, a date or just a sole exploration.This event is specifically for people of African and Caribbean heritage and other POCs
Spaces are limited so book early to avoid disappointment: Tickets available on eventbrite
Eroticnoire presents the Shibari Taster Session. Come and learn about rope play, restraints, techniques, styles and more – visit Eventbrite for more details
Here’s a FAQ for attendees
Q: I’m single can I attend alone?
A: Yes, this event is for singles as well as couples and groups You can practice on yourself or be paired with another attendee
Q: Will I need to be nude/undressed?
A: No. Attendees will be clothed. We do advise fitted comfortable clothing eg leggings, fitted tops etc
Q: Will rope be provided?
A: Yes, there will be rope available. You can also purchase rope at the venue
Q: Will there be men and women?
A: Yes. We welcome everyone to attend and learn
Q: Do you welcome groups?
A: Yes, groups are welcome. Although we do not offer group tickets
Q: Can I wear lingerie or be nude?
A: Lingerie is ok and we welcome all individuals to be free and comfortable. However, we ask that you consider other guests.
Q: Will there be one-to-one coaching?
A: Due to the nature of the event coach will provide some one-to-one guidance but not a prolonged or exclusive one-to-one coaching
Q: Can I take photos or video?
A: Yes, you’re welcome to take photos and videos of yourself, partner or friends. We do ask you respect the privacy of other guests
Q: Is this event exclusively for people of African and Caribbean heritage
A: Yes. This event is strictly for those of African and Caribbean heritage to explore this area of BDSM and kink and breakdown the under representation of this group of people.
Q: Do I have to get involved or can i just watch and learn?
A: You’re welcome to attend and watch. however, it is a practical workshop. You can practice on yourself.
Q: is it only women who can be tied up?
A: No. men can be tied up too. Shibari is for all genders to explore and enjoy.
The Eroticnoire Shibari Taster Session gives you a chance to explore, indulge and get hands on guidance and experience with Shibari (also known as rope play or rope art).
Shibari expert and advocate Mousey aka @mouseinrope will be your host and teacher.
Structure of the evening:
- Demonstration and teaching
- Guided practice session
- Free time to practice and network
This will be a friendly, inclusive session. Suitable for singles, couples and groups. It’s the ideal place to learn, explore, meet likeminded people, a date or just a sole exploration.
This event is specifically for people of African and Caribbean heritage and other POCs
Places are limited
Here’s a link to a FAQ
Brown Sugar brings together some of the most acclaimed voices in today’s black literary world — Sapphire, Natasha Tarpley, Reginald Harris, and Pamela Sneed, among them. These titillating stories cover the full spectrum of black experience and identity as they reveal sexuality and sensuality in all their varied and exotic forms. From the subtle to the graphic, Brown Sugar embraces the passion of black love and lust, and will appeal to both men and women. Featuring both well-established authors and promising new writers, this one-of-a-kind collection represents the past, present, and future of black literature at its pleasurable and outrageous best.
It is a must-have for every lover, as well as every lover of first-rate fiction.
I’m pretty sure that one or both partners in most relationships today have thought or spoken about having a threesome. However, the idea of bringing in a third person, finding them, setting up boundaries, creating reassurances etc can be overwhelming.
So here’s a way to explore the pleasures and sensations of having a third person without actually having anyone else – toys!
Let me explain – if a woman would like to experience MMF (male, male, female) combination of a threesome then something like the curved 7.5inch dong is perfect. It’s a dildo with a suction cup that can be stuck to any flat surface. So, for example it can be stuck to the floor so she can ride it while giving oral to her partner. Alternatively it can be stuck to the wall while she pushes back on it.
For the man the Satisfyer Men Pleasure Stroker Masturbator is that is needed. His partner can ride is face while using the toy on his penis. It’ll give the sensation of experiencing two women at the same time. Another alternative is for the woman to hold the toy next to her yoni so that he can alternate his strokes between being inside her and the toy.
There are plenty of creative and kinky ways these toys can be used to recreate the sensations of having a third person in on that action. Yes, some aspects and dimensions won’t happen being touched and stroked but multiple hands but, it’s a great starting point.
Give it a go and let us know how you get on.
As more and more people exploring their sexual side kinks and fetishes are an area that comes up. However, the understanding of what they are leaves some confused. Here’s the Eroticnoire 101 of kinks vs fetish
Kink: Something that arouses you and is usually considered outside the ‘norm’ or unconventional. Kinks tend to be around exploration, discovery, pushing boundaries and an addition enhances the sexual experience.
Fetish: This is a sexual act, object, aeasthetic, behaviour, characteristic or body part that is necessary for a person to become aroused or a part of sex. They tend to very specific and until they are satisfied won’t result in sexual pleasure, an example being feet play.
There is a danger with fetishes as some can be based on race or inappropriate and non consensual acts such as peeping.
It should be pointed out that BDSM is an area of sexual pleasure that can cause a lot of confusion as an aspect of BDSM can be a kink for one person and a fetish for another – example spanking or choking. They often overlap and form a grey area. A way to differentiate the two is when a kink becomes the primary source of sexual pleasure, then it’s a fetish.