Spank & Wax workshop FAQ

On Friday 8th July Eroticnoire presents Spank & Wax. It’s London’s first and only BDSM workshop dedicated to black people and POC.

Tickets are available on Eventbrite

Here is an FAQ for those interested in the event.

I’m single can I attend alone?

Absolutely. The event is for singles and couples. They’ll be other singles attending so you can be paired up with them if you wish.

What should I wear?

We recommend comfortable clothing. You can dress as formal or sensual as you wish.

Is this a play/adult party?

No. This is workshop whereby attendees learn how to practice spanking. Any sexual acts are prohibited.

Will I be expected to spank or be spanked?

This is totally up to you. Consent is paramount for us so it’s your choice.

Do I have to pair up if attending alone?

No. You can form small groups and practice together if everyone has consented. Or you can simply watch.

Will paddles be provided?

Yes. A limited number of paddles will be provided. You’re more than welcome to bring your own implements. You can also purchase them from RedRoomPleasures.com

Is the event exclusively for blk and POCs?

Yes. This event is specifically for those of African and Caribbean heritage to explore this area of BDSM and kink.

I’m in a mixed couple relationship, can my partner attend?

Yes, as long as they are attending with a black person or POC.

Will there be 1-2-1 coaching

Due to the nature of the event there will be some one-to-one guidance but not exclusive or prolonged coaching.

Is this event for couples only?

No, not at all. Singles are actively welcomed.

Is the event confidential?

We ask all attendees to respect each other’s privacy and that discretion is upheld.

Can I volunteer to be part of the demonstration?

Absolutely. Speak with our hosts. You can also volunteer to be spanked by another attendee as long as they consent.

Can I take photos or video?

You can only take images of yourself or the person(s) you’ve attended with. We ask you respect the privacy of other guests. Our hosts will also be monitoring the session.

Will I be allowed to attend in lingerie or kink wear?

Yes. Kink and lingerie are welcomed. However, we ask you consider other guests.

Can I watch or do I have to take part?

You’re welcome to attend and watch. However, it is a practical workshop so bare this in mind.

If you’ve got any other questions leave a comment below. Don’t forget to join the mailing list:

Personal invitation to Eroticnoire’s Shibari workshop

You’ve been invited to learn and explore Shibari (erotic rope bondage) on Wednesday 27 April.Your host and tutor for the night will be Mousey is sending you a personal invite so come along.

This is London’s first shibari workshop dedicated for people of African/Caribbean heritage.

This will be a friendly, inclusive session. Suitable for singles, couples and groups. It’s the ideal place to learn, explore, meet likeminded people, a date or just a sole exploration.This event is specifically for people of African and Caribbean heritage and other POCs

Spaces are limited so book early to avoid disappointment: Tickets available on eventbrite

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Eroticnoire Shirabi Taster Session – FAQ

Eroticnoire presents the Shibari Taster Session. Come and learn about rope play, restraints, techniques, styles and morevisit Eventbrite for more details

Here’s a FAQ for attendees

Q: I’m single can I attend alone?

A: Yes, this event is for singles as well as couples and groups You can practice on yourself or be paired with another attendee

Q: Will I need to be nude/undressed?

A: No. Attendees will be clothed. We do advise fitted comfortable clothing eg leggings, fitted tops etc

Q: Will rope be provided?

A: Yes, there will be rope available. You can also purchase rope at the venue

Q: Will there be men and women?

A: Yes. We welcome everyone to attend and learn

Q: Do you welcome groups?

A: Yes, groups are welcome. Although we do not offer group tickets

Q: Can I wear lingerie or be nude?

A: Lingerie is ok and we welcome all individuals to be free and comfortable. However, we ask that you consider other guests.

Q: Will there be one-to-one coaching?

A: Due to the nature of the event coach will provide some one-to-one guidance but not a prolonged or exclusive one-to-one coaching

Q: Can I take photos or video?

A: Yes, you’re welcome to take photos and videos of yourself, partner or friends. We do ask you respect the privacy of other guests

Q: Is this event exclusively for people of African and Caribbean heritage

A: Yes. This event is strictly for those of African and Caribbean heritage to explore this area of BDSM and kink and breakdown the under representation of this group of people.

Q: Do I have to get involved or can i just watch and learn?

A: You’re welcome to attend and watch. however, it is a practical workshop. You can practice on yourself.

Q: is it only women who can be tied up?

A: No. men can be tied up too. Shibari is for all genders to explore and enjoy.

Eroticnoire Shirabi Taster Session – April 27 2022

The Eroticnoire Shibari Taster Session gives you a chance to explore, indulge and get hands on guidance and experience with Shibari (also known as rope play or rope art).

Shibari expert and advocate Mousey aka @mouseinrope will be your host and teacher.

Structure of the evening:

  • Demonstration and teaching
  • Guided practice session
  • Q&A
  • Free time to practice and network

This will be a friendly, inclusive session. Suitable for singles, couples and groups. It’s the ideal place to learn, explore, meet likeminded people, a date or just a sole exploration.

This event is specifically for people of African and Caribbean heritage and other POCs

Places are limited

Here’s a link to a FAQ

Eroticnoire book club – Brown Sugar

Brown Sugar brings together some of the most acclaimed voices in today’s black literary world — Sapphire, Natasha Tarpley, Reginald Harris, and Pamela Sneed, among them. These titillating stories cover the full spectrum of black experience and identity as they reveal sexuality and sensuality in all their varied and exotic forms. From the subtle to the graphic, Brown Sugar embraces the passion of black love and lust, and will appeal to both men and women. Featuring both well-established authors and promising new writers, this one-of-a-kind collection represents the past, present, and future of black literature at its pleasurable and outrageous best.

It is a must-have for every lover, as well as every lover of first-rate fiction.

How to have a 3some but without having a third person

I’m pretty sure that one or both partners in most relationships today have thought or spoken about having a threesome. However, the idea of bringing in a third person, finding them, setting up boundaries, creating reassurances etc can be overwhelming. 

So here’s a way to explore the pleasures and sensations of having a third person without actually having anyone else – toys!

Let me explain – if a woman would like to experience MMF (male, male, female) combination of a threesome then something like the curved 7.5inch dong is perfect. It’s a dildo with a suction cup that can be stuck to any flat surface. So, for example it can be stuck to the floor so she can ride it while giving oral to her partner. Alternatively it can be stuck to the wall while she pushes back on it. 

For the man the Satisfyer Men Pleasure Stroker Masturbator is that is needed. His partner can ride is face while using the toy on his penis. It’ll give the sensation of experiencing two women at the same time. Another alternative is for the woman to hold the toy next to her yoni so that he can alternate his strokes between being inside her and the toy. 

There are plenty of creative and kinky ways these toys can be used to recreate the sensations of having a third person in on that action. Yes, some aspects and dimensions won’t happen being touched and stroked but multiple hands but, it’s a great starting point. 

Give it a go and let us know how you get on.

Kinks vs Fetishes – what’s the difference?

As more and more people exploring their sexual side kinks and fetishes are an area that comes up. However, the understanding of what they are leaves some confused. Here’s the Eroticnoire 101 of kinks vs fetish

Kink: Something that arouses you and is usually considered outside the ‘norm’ or unconventional. Kinks tend to be around exploration, discovery, pushing boundaries and an addition enhances the sexual experience. 

Fetish: This is a sexual act, object, aeasthetic, behaviour, characteristic or body part that is necessary for a person to become aroused or a part of sex. They tend to very specific and until they are satisfied won’t result in sexual pleasure, an example being feet play. 

There is a danger with fetishes as some can be based on race or inappropriate and non consensual acts such as peeping. 

It should be pointed out that BDSM is an area of sexual pleasure that can cause a lot of confusion as an aspect of BDSM can be a kink for one person and a fetish for another – example spanking or choking. They often overlap and form a grey area. A way to differentiate the two is when a kink becomes the primary source of sexual pleasure, then it’s a fetish. 

Eroticnoire Bookclub – Bell Hooks: Salvation

Written from both historical and cultural perspectives, Salvation takes an incisive look at the transformative power of love in the lives of African Americans. Whether talking about the legacy of slavery, relationships and marriage in Black life, the prose and poetry of Martin Luther King, Jr., James Baldwin, and Maya Angelou, the liberation movements of the 1950s, 60s, and 70s, or hip hop and gangsta rap culture, hooks lets us know what love’s got to do with it.

Combining the passionate politics of W.E.B. DuBois with fresh, contemporary insights, hooks brilliantly offers new visions that will heal our nation’s wounds from a culture of lovelessness. Her writings on love and its impact on race, class, family, history, and popular culture raise all the relevant issues. This is work that helps us heal. Salvation shows us how to create beloved American communities.

5 toys to spice up Valentine’s Day

With valentine’s just around the corner there is no better time to consider buying a new adult toy. At RedRoomPleasures.com we’ve picked out five top toys that’ll have you and your lover tingling with pleasure

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The Satisfyer panty vibrator is a discreet beauty can be worn in public and controlled by a mobile app. It’s perfect if you want to get naughty in public and see how far you can push your boundaries. It’s whisper quiet so it can’t be heard. It can even be controlled from the other side of the world via wifi. Perfect if there’s distance between you both.
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  1. Satisfyer Partner Couples Vibrator

This Satisfyer Partner Couples Vibrator toy offers simultaneous pleasure for both partners during sex. It gives clitoral and g-spot stimulation as well as vibration of the man’s penis – it’s win-win. Buy Now

  1. Satisfyer App Enabled Curvy 2 Plus Clitoral Massager Pink

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  1. Satisfyer Men Pleasure Stroker Masturbator

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