Typically black history month celebrates our ancestors, inventors, leaders and of course slavery. One thing I found that isn’t celebrated or reflected on is our sexual history or lived experience. That’s why I’m putting on 3 events to explore and celebrate black erotica.
Shibari Noire. Spank & Wax and Drinks & Kinks.
Shibari Noire is the UKs first and only erotic rope workshop dedicated to people of African and Caribbean heritage.
Spank & Wax offers a place for black people to learn, explore and indulge in the pleasures of spanking.
Drinks & Kinks is an mixer and social event for black kinksters to meet, network and connect with like minded people of African and Caribbean heritage.
So this October explore and celebrate a different aspect of black history
As more and more people exploring their sexual side kinks and fetishes are an area that comes up. However, the understanding of what they are leaves some confused. Here’s the Eroticnoire 101 of kinks vs fetish
Kink: Something that arouses you and is usually considered outside the ‘norm’ or unconventional. Kinks tend to be around exploration, discovery, pushing boundaries and an addition enhances the sexual experience.
Fetish: This is a sexual act, object, aeasthetic, behaviour, characteristic or body part that is necessary for a person to become aroused or a part of sex. They tend to very specific and until they are satisfied won’t result in sexual pleasure, an example being feet play.
There is a danger with fetishes as some can be based on race or inappropriate and non consensual acts such as peeping.
It should be pointed out that BDSM is an area of sexual pleasure that can cause a lot of confusion as an aspect of BDSM can be a kink for one person and a fetish for another – example spanking or choking. They often overlap and form a grey area. A way to differentiate the two is when a kink becomes the primary source of sexual pleasure, then it’s a fetish.