Kinks vs Fetishes – what’s the difference?

As more and more people exploring their sexual side kinks and fetishes are an area that comes up. However, the understanding of what they are leaves some confused. Here’s the Eroticnoire 101 of kinks vs fetish

Kink: Something that arouses you and is usually considered outside the ‘norm’ or unconventional. Kinks tend to be around exploration, discovery, pushing boundaries and an addition enhances the sexual experience. 

Fetish: This is a sexual act, object, aeasthetic, behaviour, characteristic or body part that is necessary for a person to become aroused or a part of sex. They tend to very specific and until they are satisfied won’t result in sexual pleasure, an example being feet play. 

There is a danger with fetishes as some can be based on race or inappropriate and non consensual acts such as peeping. 

It should be pointed out that BDSM is an area of sexual pleasure that can cause a lot of confusion as an aspect of BDSM can be a kink for one person and a fetish for another – example spanking or choking. They often overlap and form a grey area. A way to differentiate the two is when a kink becomes the primary source of sexual pleasure, then it’s a fetish. 

Her pleasurable punishment

A fan (who has a submissive streak) decided she was going to do the ‘ice’ challenge – she failed. she said she loves to orgasm so i set her a simple punishment – bring herself to orgasm 5 times but not cum. on the 5th time she has permission to cum but must orgasm 5 times – each orgasm she must continuously stimulate herself for the count of 150.

this is her audio submission. enjoy.

Letters of pleasure – 21.3.14 – 4×4 task

I’ve said from the start that this journey would be one that pushes you beyond your boundaries. I’ve said from the start that this journey will be one that is solely about your pleasure and its exploration. It would be a journey that challenges your preconceptions of pleasure, power and submission. This task will push you; it will push you further than the previous tasks. It will carry you on a slow walk of spasms; offer you an unhurried stroll through the garden of shudders. With this task you’ll be required to focus on prolonging your pleasure. It will be rough, rugged and you’ll travel of a varied terrain of tingles, throbbing and intensity. This is why I’ve call this task 4×4

You’ll perform four ‘sessions’ with four varied strokes with these four implements and each session lasting four minutes. For each ‘session’ you’ll use each of the things below to indulge yourself and your pleasure and you’ll perform them in the order given.
Fingers
Bullet
Rabbit ears
Ice cube
remember: each item from the list will be used for four minutes and you’ll perform four varied strokes for each item.  Continue reading

Letter of intentions – 7.3.14

I want you to know that I’m writing these letters for you. I’m writing them so that you … we, can go on a journey of your pleasure. When you read these letters understand it’s all about you and only you.

The focus is for you to let go, be free. No restrictions, no holding back, no judgements. I want you to explore and become lost in what we do. I want you to surrender, to submit. Succumb not just to me but to yourself and the sexuality that is within you. My asking you to submit isn’t to demonstrate your weakness; it’s not for me to abuse my authority. Your submission is the opposite; it’s so you can gain power in being guided to something new. Your submission is so you can become free to embrace all of yourself and your pleasure. Continue reading

Letter of instruction – 6.3.14

This is for you. You’ve inspired me. This is for you, for your pleasure. I wrote this so that you can explore, learn, discover … push your boundaries. This is so you can sink into the pleasures of yourself. Sink into your submitting, having your body dictated to, governed. What I ask of you is not about me, it’s about and for you. I want you to feel comfortable, at ease, to feel free in your expression. This space is ours, it’s for you and I so please don’t be concerned with anything else – the focus is just one thing … your pleasure.

This task is called ‘ice’

Tonight you must not cum. You must hold onto it for me.

Tonight, when you’re alone I want you to get a bowl of ice from the freezer and lay yourself down. Place a towel under your ass and spread your legs wide, open the pages of your legs for me. Gently pull back the skin covering your nib. Feel it become vulnerable. Feel it pulse with anticipation. Then take an ice cube and hold it above your clit. Let 3 droplets fall onto your nib – count them out aloud.
Then begin your task… Continue reading

In that moment

In that moment of release

The pinnacle of tension

That point of internal explosion

Time stands still

I become paralyzed

Dumbstruck

Suffocated by confusion

Smothered in a think layer of submission

I am reduced to the one sensation of feeling

My brain is coloured in a spectrum of urgently violent passive surrender

I expel an ocean of sound

A rainstorm of thunderous frequency

Reduced to four letter expletive

And blasphemous praise

I spin

Fall

Fly

And become static all in one

Convulsive-spasm

Move me

Staccato co-ordination

I endure this each time

You make me cum

Squirting 101 – part 2

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Ok … So some of y’all have come back asking what happens if you haven’t got a partner/you want to practice on your own first.  Fear not, Professor Erotic Noire is at hand (pardon the pun).

Firstly, and forgive me for stating the obvious to you ladies, but solo hand jobs can offer two initial problems. Nails and angles. For those of you ladies that like your long names performing the technique described in my previous lesson may prove ….. a tad uncomfortable shall we say. The other issue is getting your hand into the right angle to be able to touch your gspot. This is where my tag team partner comes into play …. toys!! Now before you run off and grab the ever popular rabbit take note. The rabbit isn’t the best toy to touch you gspot. You’ll need a dedicated gspot stimulator toy for this trick. These little underrated and under appreciated bad boys come in all shapes and sizes. My top two are pictured below. I call the first one ‘Question Mark’ not only because of its shape but also because it’ll leave your body asking WTF was that?!!! Its so good I had one ‘stolen’ from me (that’s another blog in itself). The other bad boy is a smaller, more slender offering called the Finger Gspot. So what’s the difference you ask? Simple ‘Vibration focus’. Question mark has a wider, deeper vibration and is easier to hold. It’s larger tip gives a sensation that covers a wider/larger area on and around your gspot. It also has more speed and pulsation variations. The slender curved Finger Gspot has a more focused and faster vibration rate (depending on the spec). Its vibration hits a specific spot of your spot (if that makes sense). As a result you’ll have to really know where you gspot is and how to control this toy. Some may find the finger to intense and thus uncomfortable and its slender shape harder to control.

So down to the business of technique…

With either toy the best position is to have you knees folded up into your chest slighting. I’m not talking any fancy yoga position or contortionist flexibility – just legs apart and your body curled up slightly. I feel I have to explain why this position is probably the best of any for of gspot stimulation. The reason is that the vaginal track, when in this positioned, become shorted and more condensed, thus everything becomes compacted – including your nerve ends and sensitive spots. So when you slide the toy inside already the sensation/pleasure spots will be closer together. This compacted area includes you gspot which ‘moves’ to an angle that is easier to find and stimulate. As with the previous blog the trick is to use slow, steady, small circular motions on your gspot. While doing this you can also use your other hand to stimulate you clit. The combined stimulation will create a similar sensation and orgasm to the one described in my previous blog. Again, remember, as you build up to orgasm try to keep the toys motion steady and slow. I know this is easier said than done but try. I’d also go as far as to suggest (for those that can handle the intensity) to keep the toy inside during and after orgasm. Another benefit to the using these toys is that if you do have a partner to hand they can provide oral please at the same time – how great is that?!? But I digress, the focus is solo pleasure.

When it comes to gspot toys I do sincerely think they are underrated and under utilised. These bad boys can give orgasms that are different from the infamous rabbit and if you get the right one are more portable 😉 My case in point is this magnificent piece of gspot stimulation engineering. It looks aren’t the greatest but trust me this baby, if used right, can make silent scream (for those that have experienced this, you know what i mean). What this magic wand does is provide two way stimulation. Due to its shape it curls up inside the woman and hits are gpost (the lower part of the toy in the image below) while the upper part goes to work on the clit (the rigged part) So it’s two for the price of one stimulation. The great thing about this particular toy is that get your body positioning right and you can use it ‘hands free’ and just rock back and forth. A good position would be to be on your knees with a pillow between your thighs to help hold the toy in place.  However, nothing beats the good old on your back/sitting on the edge of the sofa legs akimbo 😉

here are a small selection of toys that I’d recommend you try out if you want to go solo. The prices range from £15 – £50. If you have any question Professor Noire will be happy to answer them via email. Please note that smaller, pocket sized gspot stimulators may prove difficult to hold and position so I’d personally recommend a middle to larger size toy for easier control.

Class is dismissed …

Professor Noire

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flashback to that time – 2nd version

After writing the first version I wanted to make a short piece. Still have the passion, imagery, intensity but in a shorter form. Call it poetry from concentrate, not freshly squeezed poetic juice. I hope like.

Flashback to that time – 2nd version

You evoke lines of thinking …
Make me want to …
feel the tightness of you
squeeze me
Until your thumbing and my pulse meet
I heart beat of deep sex pleasure
Clinch teeth.
Feel my lips wrap themselves around your erect nipples.
Gentle teeth grasp them.
teases them
playful strokes affectionate and focused
You moan vowels.
Hold me firm between your legs
‎​Raw
Uncontrolled
Free
Ride me. Move on top of me.
Tip ur hips
tilt them
Gyrate
Grind hard
Rotate slow
Push down on me with g-force power
Feel me slide against ur inside walls
I want to touch the sky of ur woman limit
Squeeze me
As I grap your hips
enjoy this roller coaster of lust
Rise up slow and sure like the sun does in the morning
Beat down like drums
Make music
Make skin against skin clapping sounds
whisper in my ears
Tell me how it feels
Go hard
Slide to my tip
rub it against your clit.
Moan with angry-pleasure-delight. Tense-release
Submit
Surrender
Give in
Set passion free
Ride me hard
kiss me soft
wide synchronisation movement
bodies meet hard
Hammer and nail
Breathing un-coordinated
Varied
Deep
Shallow
Fast
Slow
We breathe gentle
‎​Cup your booty
Feel its fullness
Squeeze it firm
Pull you down on to my hardness
push up inside you
Bite on your neck.
fuck hard
Invite me in
Touch yourself
Your fingers become wet-silk-smooth
Circle your clit
Tease its tip
watch you touch you while you ride me
Pleasure yourself
Gasp
Arch your back
Moan
Pause
Look into your eyes
Thrust
Command me
Take control
Pull me out slow
Take me in fast
Rest the tip of my hardness on your entrance
Let the neighbours hear – fuck ’em!!
feel me just at your entrance
play with your nipples
Circle them
Slide your hand down between your legs
Take hold of my hardness
Tell me how you want it
Release a loud moan
Make it echo across the room.
grind deep inside you
Create angles
Grind my hips like we’re slow dancing
feel the head of me slide along your walls
Move slow
feel me touch your g-spot
Pussy spasm
twitch
Grip me with your muscles
Make me moan
Growl
Let your juice run
Trickle down my scrotum
rock back and forth
Roll side to side
kiss
soft
Slow
Focused
Easy
Calm
While pelvis moves vicious and hard
Use your toy
Let tentative ‘ears’ listen to your wet sound
Drink in the sound of its buzz
Feel its vibration
Sink into hard dick and toy vibration pleasure
Feel your inside muscles tense
urge building
Tingles giggling
toes curl
tempo increases
sounds melt into one pleasure audio
Tell me faster
push harder
Growl
Build
Climb
Elevate
Soar
Fly
Forget
Become lost
Body scream
Cum hard
Squirt on me
Wash me in your release
Shake
Tremble
Smile
Drift into sleep …

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