Hi Eroticnoire: I love sex but was wondering why is it so hard for me to orgasm? I can come when I masturbate or when I’m on top but that’s it. Can you help?
70% of wmn can only cum/cum better via clitoral orgams/stimulation with the remaining 30% split between gspot and penetration. Maybe you’re a gspot woman.
When a woman is on top she can control the movement, pace, depth and angle of the man’s penis. As most men when erect will curve upwards towards his belly it’ll be hitting the front wall of her vagina (where the gspot is) when he’s laying on his back – thus making it more likely for you to reach orgasm. Obviously, it’ll be boring if that’s the only position you could ever have sex in that’ll make you orgasm so here’s two more:
Position 1: Lay on your back and put a couple pillows under your bum so your hips are raised OR lay on the edge of the bed/sofa with your legs hanging off the end. The guy should be kneeling on the floor (if you’re on the edge of the sofa/bed) as he slides inside u he’s penis will be curved upwards and be hitting your gspot. If you’re on the bed and have pillows under your bum it’s more or less the same thing.
Position 2: Lay on your stomach and have him kneel next to and slide his thumb inside u from behind (like a thumb backshot) he should press his thumb downwards against your front wall. His fingers should be cupped under you so they are resting on your stomach and between you and the bed. He should slowly press against your gspot and let you rock your hips to control the motion.
Also, it maybe worth exploring oral sex more and incorporating toys not just into your sole indulgences but into your sex too.
I hope that helps.